My Story
“It is my soul’s mission to open my heart and expand my ability to love
and my passion to help others do so as well.”
My Healing Journey
My own healing journey to find love began with a day of despair. I was 27 and was starting to notice that my last several girlfriends had a certain negative trait in common even though they were all very different in other ways. Then one day it hit me… the realization that not only had I been consistently dating women with a certain negative trait, but I was also terrified of being with the kind of woman that I was most interested in!
That was when the despair set in. Since I was terrified of being with the right partner for me, and I was fatally attracted to the wrong kind of women, I was afraid that I would never be able to have a successful love relationship. I decided that this was not an acceptable outcome to my life!
The next day I signed up for intensive therapy, two times per week, to work through my relationship issues. I told my therapist that I would do absolutely whatever it took to work through my issues so that I could be with my life partner. Using traditional therapy it took me about three years to break free from my negative attractions. It was incredibly liberating to to no longer be attracted to those kinds of women who I used to find the sexiest women on the planet!
I then spent years working through all of my fears and limiting beliefs around being with the kind of women I most wanted to be with until I finally reached a place of healthy dating. I was no longer afraid to approach the women I was most interested in. I felt comfortable being myself and enjoyed my time with them. At this point, my main goal during dating and in a relationship with these wonderful women was to simply determine if we were compatible enough to be life partners, and I appreciated the time I spent with each one. I didn’t have any bad experiences any more.
Now at last, I have my own magical story about how I met my beloved. One day I decided to use the Law of Attraction to bring my partner into my life by “refreshing” my partner vision. I reread my partner vision in my journal, sent my vision out to the universe, and put it away. Two weeks later I received an e-mail advertising an event that I would normally never attend. As I was deleting the e-mail I suddenly heard a strong voice inside me telling me to go to the event. At the event my beloved stood out like a glowing beacon. There was instant recognition for me that she was someone very special. I watched her talking to someone and was so impressed by her beauty, presence, and connectedness. I was awestruck by her. She felt the same way about me as soon as we had our first dance together.
After the dance we sat down to talk, and I asked her a simple getting-to-know-you question. She didn’t answer for a while, so I jokingly asked her if it was a hard question. I have never forgotten the words she said to me that night…
I know what it’s like to spend years trying to find true love. I know the frustration, loneliness and even despair of that search. It took me many years to work through my blocks to finding love using traditional therapy. Now, with the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT Tapping Therapy), I can help you clear your internal barriers to love in weeks instead of years. You have no idea how much I wish that I had had EFT when I started my own healing journey!
EFT Love Coach
I have been helping individuals and couples with their deep emotional healing and relationship issues for 16 years and have specialized in using the Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) for 8 years. I now use a powerful combination of Inner Child Healing and EFT called Matrix Reimprinting.
I’ve always had an intuitive gift (supported by extensive training) to quickly get to the heart of the matter and discover the root cause of my clients’ problems.
I often get comments like:
“I’ve seen four counselors before you, but you were the first one that helped me discover the source of my problem.”
All EFT practitioners know how to do the tapping process. However, knowing specifically what to tap on can make all of the difference. My current success rate is over 97%.
“Stefan makes it easy to do EFT because he is incredibly intuitive and supportive. Even the deepest and most painful memories fade away or even appear funny after a session. I notice major changes after every session, and just after a few sessions I have developed a new calmness and self awareness that I don’t ever remember having in my life.” — Client Testimonial
My Training
I have seven years of training in the following emotional healing techniques: the Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), Matrix Reimprinting, Tapas Acupressure Technique (TAT), Gestalt Therapy, Transactional Analysis, couples counseling, group therapy (Relational Model), EMDR, the Core Transformation Process, Inner Child Healing, Focusing, Guided Imagery & Spiritual Approaches, and other body-oriented therapies.
My body-oriented Gestalt Therapy training has given me a particularly good background for helping clients get more clearly in touch with their issues and discover the root of their problems. It is a wonderfully supportive complement to the healing power of EFT and Matrix Reimprinting.
My Healing Philosophy
One of the keys to healing is being gentle and compassionate with the hurting parts of ourselves. We may be uncomfortable with (and even hate) certain parts of ourselves, but these are just parts of us whose needs were never met growing up. By being compassionate with these parts, we can find out what they need and heal them. This is at the root of healing the dysfunctional behavior in our lives. From an appreciative, self-loving place we can work with instead of against ourselves to find much more satisfying solutions in our lives.
Contact Stefan
Complimentary 20 Minute Consultation
Let’s have a chat to see how EFT can help you break free from your barriers and have the love you’ve always wanted. Contact me at (800) 770-9488 or Skype ID: stefancgonick or stefan@findingtheloveyouwant.com to arrange your consultation.